So often when we think about "leadership" it becomes such a big concept we can't imagine how it might apply to us. It is easier to think that it applies only to people with bigger positions, titles, and more responsibility than we have. As a coach of mine once said: "That's stinkin' thinkin'."
When we think leadership is just for those "other people" we've unconsciously decided it's not for us. That we don't have to do it. We've told ourselves what we do every day doesn't really matter. In this way, we've limited ourselves. We don't give ourselves credit for the everyday actions that make a difference to those around us.
For the Ted Lasso fans, here's a truth bomb. You are leading every day. Let's check out how seeing yourself as a leader can change the way you approach almost everything you choose to do.
Leadership is Influence
John Maxwell defines leadership simply as "influence". This is so amazing because we all have it. Since we all have influence we must all be leading in some way.
Influence is felt through our Behaviors
Our choices do make a difference. We're either acting in alignment with the person we want to be or we're not. Deciding is different from doing. It's the doing that matters.
Our behaviors are driven by our Values
Our behaviors are led by our core values and beliefs. If we don't figure out what we stand for we'll fall for anything. Your core values are informed by your beliefs. They will change in the different stages of life so it's important to question them periodically.
Write it out to figure it out
Think of these aspects as your own personal "life" pyramid. To have a big enough pyramid to encompass all of your life you'll need a large foundation. Now draw the pyramid you want to build. Start with a long line at the bottom and connect the lines to make a triangle. Next, separate the triangle into sections. In the bottom section write in your core values. These are the things you'll really sacrifice for, the non-negotiables for your life. In the next section up, write in the behaviors you will do to live out those values. Next, write about the influence you will have when you take the action necessary to be the person you want to be. At the top write the kind of leader you aspire to be.
On the outside left of your pyramid write "values". On the outside right write "behaviors". On the bottom write "courage". Hang up your drawing where you can see it. Take a moment to reflect on these choices you've made and how you're living them every day. This is how you're displaying leadership.
Leadership is Courage + Values + Behaviors = Influence
The foundation of your life is the courage you display to live your life like you've chosen. It's not on someone else with those fancy positions and titles to decide, it's up to you. There's never been a person like you on the planet before and there won't be another person like you again. Have the courage to lead like the person you want to be and we'll all be better off for it!
The world needs your leadership and we're counting on you to get to the top of your pyramid!
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